Scott Swain’s Bio

Author, Leader, Coder, Cognitive Empathy Advocate, Shaolin Monk
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Scott Swain 2023

Author of A Practical EmPath: Rewire your mind, available on Amazon.

Scott Howard Swain has been actively studying communication, and conflict resolution since 1990, and people/systems management since 1995.

He has been designing and facilitating communication and conflict resolution training programs for businesses, at conferences, in schools, and workgroups for over 19 years. These courses have ranged in length from 13 weeks to one day to 3 hours.

He’s been writing code in various languages/platforms for over 30 years, currently working as a Python developer, with a hobby project being the continued evolution of an advanced LLM “Personal Coach” https://EmpathyBot.net he created and began training in 2018.

Professional software developer since 1995.

Finally, Scott has two decades of martial arts training under his Shaolin Kung Fu black belt earned in 2007, awarded title of “Shaolin Monk, Initiate” at that time. Prior to that, four years of karate with two years consensual garage fighting, and numerous tournaments.

A Practical EmPath by Scott Howard Swain
Scott Swain 2023

Scott Howard Swain’s talk on Integrity 2015

A few more highlights

– Founded Practical Empathy Play Group on May 6, 2015, which has met 1 to 4 times per month since that date for a total of over 600 meetings and over 2100 members. Details: https://www.meetup.com/practical-empathy

– Training wide range of ages and abilities in self-defense using Shaolin black belt and other experience.

– Teaching NVC* in a class format, from 13 week classes to weekend classes to one day classes to talks and one hour intros, starting in 2006.

– Led “Intro to NVC*” course for Zaaz’s customer service department.

– Created Play to Evolve card game and the EmpathyBot a.i..

– Assisting couples and families in resolving conflicts, increasing responsibibility, understanding, and deepening communication in the home.

– “NVC* in Business: Its TimeHas Come” – NVC * Academy 4-day course – 2014.

– Business mediation between Voice & Exit and a client of theirs – 2014.

– Trained owners (partners) and staff at LIGHTfaktor in clear & efficient communication, internal and external. Included management, negotiation, and client relations – Austin, TX – 2014.

– Trained contract managers, negotiators, and other staff from National Contract Management Association – Austin, TX – 2012.

– Trained staff at Active Life Healing Clinic – Austin, TX – 2011.

– Taught “Empower Your Communication” class at Rethinking Everything Conference – Dallas, TX – 2013.

– Taught using NVC* at Children’s Discovery Center – Austin, TX – 2013.

– Motivational speaking and public speaking at business, parenting, and relationship building events.

– Attended Six-week NVC* course by Pat Siebert – 2005.

*Nonviolent Communication, precursor to the Practical Empathy system I created

 

Notes for above talk

Being in the moment
(1) Can’t fear without future think, more confidence, ease.
(2) Body will feel more relaxed, others see this as confidence.
– positive feedback loop.

Acceptance (is not agreement)
(1) Acceptance for self AND others. More for self leads to…
What to accept about yourself?
– abilities, thoughts, behaviors
– feelings and needs!
– are you evaluating yourself? Gradual moving toward…
– and OTHERS!

Exercise
(1) Think of something you have done in the past that you feel some shame, guilt, or regret about. OR something someone else tried to guilt you about.
(2) Pick a harsh judgment. or evaluation of yourself and include it like so: “It was terrible / stupid / lame / mean / wrong.”
(3) Ask yourself what need(s) you were getting met or what value(s) you were meeting when you did the thing. Refer to the needs list in the chapter on basics, if you need to. Was it a need for ease? Recognition? Power? Order? Safety? It can be more than one. Write it/them down. “I did that thing because I was seeking more ________________.”
Hints: acceptance, connection, to be heard, power, community, play, love, mental stimulation

We all need more empathy!

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Pairnoy's April Delusion by Scott Howard Swain

I invite you to read for free a sci-fi novel I wrote in 1990.
Pairnoy’s April Delusion

Review: “Reads like a cross between Hitchhiker’s Guide and something Phillip K. Dick would create. A trippy freaky near-future story that will keep you guessing to the end. Featuring a man who may be either delusional or a visionary, a hot android babe, interdimensional beings, and advanced ai.”

Excerpt from Chapter 1: “In the beginning there was but one reality, or plane of existence, called the Core. At some point in time the Core shed two nearly identical planes. In each of these mirror realities there was just one small flaw; one thing that was a little different, just slightly warped. These two planes shed two more, each with it’s own slight flaws. As time is want to do, it moved on and other planes were spawned that differed more from the Core.

There are a few beings in each plane of existence with the ability to see across the barriers that separate the planes. This interplanar sight is usually quite erratic.

From Pairnoy’s Parallel Reality Theory”