Published 2025-08-22 12-11
Summary
When you truly see yourself and others without judgment, gratitude shows up naturally – no forced “count your blessings” required. Real empathy creates real appreciation.
The story
You know that moment when someone really gets you? Like they see past your grumpy morning face and know you just need coffee before talking to humans? That’s empathy working, and it’s the secret to feeling more grateful.
I discovered this while writing Chapter 9 of “A Practical EmPath Rewire Your Mind.” My gratitude wasn’t some forced “count your blessings” thing – it bubbled up naturally when I practiced what I call Practical Empathy.
Here’s the weird part: it starts with yourself. When I’m overwhelmed at work, instead of pushing through, I pause and think “okay, I’m stressed and need a break.” Not earth-shattering, right? But acknowledging that feeling without judgment opens something up.
Then it spreads outward. I start seeing my partner’s needs more clearly, understanding why my neighbor seems cranky, recognizing the grocery clerk is having a rough day. And suddenly I’m grateful for my windows, my computer, the fact that someone invented coffee.
The process is simple: notice what’s happening, name the feeling, identify what you or they really want, then figure out one small positive step. No fancy words needed – just honest observation.
It’s like climbing a spiral staircase. Each step up gives you a wider view, and appreciation grows naturally from understanding. Not fake gratitude you force yourself to feel, but real appreciation that comes when you truly see yourself and others.
The best part? It works in normal conversations. You don’t need therapy talk – just genuine curiosity about what’s really happening beneath the surface.
Chapter 9 breaks down exactly how this works.
For more from Chapter 9 of my “A Practical EmPath Rewire Your Mind” book, visit
https://clearsay.net/talk-on-chapter-9-gratitude/.
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Keywords: EmpathyAndGratitude, authentic gratitude, natural empathy, mindful appreciation
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