Published 2025-09-12 08-49
Summary
Most people are actually decent, but we’re wired to notice threats over kindness. After 30 years studying human behavior, I learned the good stuff just doesn’t make headlines.
The story
You know what keeps me going some days? Remembering that most people are actually pretty decent.
Yeah, I know that sounds naive with all the negativity we see online. But after 30 years of studying human behavior, I’ve learned something important – the good stuff just doesn’t make headlines.
I see it everywhere when I pay attention. The person who holds the elevator. The stranger who returns a lost wallet. The neighbor who shovels your driveway without being asked.
These aren’t rare moments. They’re happening constantly around us.
The problem is we’re wired to notice threats more than kindness. It kept our ancestors alive, but now it skews how we see the world. We remember the one rude driver but forget the ten who let us merge.
Here’s what changed my perspective: I started looking for the good on purpose. Not in some fake positive way, but really watching for those small moments of human decency.
Turns out they’re everywhere.
When we recognize this pattern, something shifts. We stop bracing for the worst in every interaction. We start giving people the benefit of the doubt. And guess what? They usually deserve it.
That’s why I wrote “A Practical EmPath: Rewire Your Mind.” Because when we understand how naturally good most people are, empathy stops feeling risky and starts feeling smart.
The world needs more of us betting on human decency. Because most of the time, we’re right.
For more about my “A Practical EmPath Rewire Your Mind” book, visit
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ62HRKH.
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Keywords: ActsOfKindness, negativity bias, human decency, media psychology
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