Discover how your split-second judgments create your reality – and learn 5 proven ways to harness this power for better relationships and decisions. From a 30-year psychology veteran.
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5 Ways Your Judgments Shape Everything [And How to Use That Power]
After 30 years helping people understand themselves and others better, I’ve discovered that how we judge situations determines our entire reality. Here are the key insights I’ve gathered:
1. Your Initial Reaction Isn’t the Only Option
When someone’s late, you can see it as disrespect or a sign they’re overwhelmed. That choice changes everything about how you’ll feel and respond.
2. Distance Creates Clarity
In my book’s chapter on cognitive empathy, I show how to understand others without absorbing their emotions. It’s like having a superpower – you get the insights without the emotional drain.
3. Harsh Judgments Are Just Masked Needs
When someone’s acting difficult, there’s usually something deeper happening. I’ve found that looking past the surface behavior to spot the underlying need changes everything.
4. Questions Beat Assumptions
Instead of deciding why someone didn’t respond to your message, asking them directly saves both of you from unnecessary stress. Simple, but game-changing.
5. The Reframe Changes Everything
Rather than labeling someone “difficult,” try “they have a different approach.” This small shift opens up solutions instead of creating walls.
Want to master these evaluation skills? Check out Chapter 5 of “A Practical EmPath: Rewire Your Mind” where I break down exactly how to transform your judgment patterns.
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