We Banned Phones at Dinner and Everything Changed

Published 2026-01-27 09-08

Summary [fiction]

We made the phone sit in the bread box during dinner. Felt weird at first, then my nervous system went, “Oh. This is the game.”

The story

🟢 Who Invited My Phone to Dinner?
Mirelda and I sat down to eat, candles lit, soup steaming, and my phone did that little wiggle like a gremlin with stage fright. One ping, and my eyes drifted, like I’d been ganked by a tiny glowing portal. I half-nodded at Mirelda while scrolling, a neat trick if your goal is to make the person you love feel like background furniture. I felt that hollow drop because I value being *with* someone, not merely near them.

🟢 Is Technoference the Most Polite Saboteur?
In the old stories, curses come with smoke and chanting. This one comes with “just checking real quick.” Technoference is that everyday device intrusion that turns one moment into crumbs; our regular, non-sci-fi brains aren’t built for 20 open tabs of attention. The lizard brain hears every notification like, “Emergency, possibly wolves,” so stress rises and connection drops.

🟢 Want a Tiny Spell You Can Actually Test?
So we tried a small enchantment: phone goes in the bread box during dinner. Not forever, not as a moral crusade, just a strategy for the kind of relationship we want to live in. The first night felt awkward, like my thumbs were mourning a lost pet. Then Mirelda started talking, I started listening, and my nervous system unclenched like, “Oh. This is the game.”

What would happen if you tested one phone-free moment, not to be “better,” but to feel more real together?

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