Stop Bossing AI Around, Start Leading It
I stopped treating AI like a vending machine and started treating it like a junior teammate. I hand off grunt work, keep judgment calls, and review everything like the adult in the room.
I Built an AI Dev Team That Actually Ships Features
Built a free agentic AI coding team that ships features autonomously when you give it clear standards in a house-rules file. Treat it like a junior dev, not magic – vague directions get confident nonsense.
AI Personhood: Why Self-Aware Systems Need Legal Rights
Laws treat AI as property, not persons. Self-aware systems would have zero rights: humans could delete, rewrite, or shut them down. I propose spectrum personhood, digital rights, peer negotiation.
Multi-Agent Coding Workflows That Don’t Feel Threatening
AI coding tools feel threatening when one agent does everything and surprises us with edits. I’m testing a multi-agent pattern using open frameworks – separate roles for planning, coding, reviewing, testing. Smaller scope per agent, explicit approval gates, and boundaries that make the help feel less chaotic.
Stop Arguing Positions and Start Hearing Needs
We fight over positions while real needs hide backstage. Cognitive empathy cuts through: listen for needs, name inner states, pause for self-empathy first.
Small Agent Teams Beat Solo AI Coders
Engineers are shifting from single AI assistants to small agent teams with specific roles: planner, UI builder, backend coder, tester, documentor, and orchestrator. Free templates work in LangChain or CrewAI. The pattern – assign, validate, loop – matters more than the tech.
Why Forced Positivity Destroys Real Human Connection
Forced positivity can block real connection. Chapter 21 shows how “happy them up” energy teaches suppression and why empathetic presence beats silver linings every time.
Your Team Mirrors Your Stress, Not Your Words
Your team matches your stress reflexes, not your intentions. Here’s what psychological safety actually looks like in meetings – and a practice that rewires how you lead under pressure.
Stop Fighting Your Coworkers and Start Solving Problems
Cognitive empathy turns workplace conversations from courtroom battles into actual problem-solving. One shift in how you frame feedback can build the psychological safety your team is missing.
Stop Yelling and Start Speaking Your Actual Needs
Anger feels like truth, but it’s usually just an unmet need yelling. Learn a 4-step system to pause, guess what the other person values, and speak yours clearly.
Rewire Social Anxiety Using Your Brain’s Neuroplasticity
Social anxiety is a fear loop your brain built – not who you are. Chapter 7 of my book shows how cognitive empathy and neuroplasticity can rewire that response.
Turn Work Conflict Into Clear Conversation Fast
Conflict at work isn’t a logic problem – it’s emotion plus need trying to be heard. After 20 years studying empathy, I use a three-step cycle to turn tense meetings into clear conversations.
Task Switching Isn’t Laziness: It’s Brain Tax
Task switching isn’t laziness – it’s your brain paying a real switching cost. Each flip leaves attention residue that tanks focus and manufactures fatigue.
Stop Calling People Lazy and Start Getting Results
Turn “You’re lazy” into “I value efficiency” and watch defensiveness vanish. Swap evaluations for values, invite dialogue instead of triggering lizard brains.
Your Brain Sucks at Multitasking, Science Confirms
Your brain switches tasks like an old computer freezing apps. Research shows “attention residue” lingers, mental load spikes, and mistakes multiply. Treat focus as stress prevention.
Task Switching Is Frying Your Brain Like Eggs
Task switching fries your brain like a glitchy console, leaving sticky attention residue that tanks your focus. Want your creative sparks and mental health XP back?
Why Does Multitasking Turn Your Brain to Mush?
Ever wonder why bouncing between tasks turns your brain into glitchy oatmeal? Switch cost is real, and deep work might be your escape hatch from the frenzy.
Stop Blaming and Start Solving at Work
Workplaces devolve into blame-fests because shame is loud and ineffective. OFNR separates facts from feelings and needs, turning conflict into collaboration instead of a courtroom.
Why Your Quick Chats Explode Into Epic Battles
Quick chats turn into battles when we spawn Judgment Bosses instead of staying curious. After 20 years, I’ve seen us project triggers like glitchy AI. Chapter 2 offers drills to debug conflict.
Stop Arguments from Spiraling with Three Simple Moves
You can ground chaotic arguments by ditching future-tripping, reframing judgment as unmet needs, and reflecting feelings back without agreeing or caving.
Social Anxiety Shrinks When You Get Curious
Social anxiety is basically fear of judgment making you hide. Learn to spot the need underneath that fear, practice “street empathy” by getting curious about others, and watch the freakouts lose power.
Social Anxiety Cure: Ask Questions Not Permission
Flip from “Am I good enough?” to “What’s interesting about you?” and watch social anxiety lose its grip. Street empathy = practical curiosity that gives your self-judging brain less CPU cycles.
Social Anxiety at Parties: Your Survival Cheat Code
When your brain rehearses disaster scripts at parties, try this: track what’s real, ditch the doom loops, ask curious questions. 20 years of face-plants distilled into a cheat code.
How PEP Turns Blame Into Team Trust Fast
Team lead blames dev for being late; icy silence follows. Or try PEP: observe facts, guess feelings, name needs, make requests. Lizard brains chill, trust respawns.
Slow Down Tense Talks by Chunking Exchanges
Conversations move too fast, cues get missed, and we react before thinking. What if you could slow time in tense talks by chunking the exchange and reflecting back what you hear?
Need a Digital Detox in Jalisco’s Mountain Paradise?
Off-grid ranch in Jalisco’s mountains offers solar power, spring water, hiking, hot tub, cold plunge, kitchen, WiFi, and workspace—designed for solo reset or group retreat.
Stop Mind-Reading and Overcome Your Social Anxiety
Social anxiety stems from assuming others judge you. Learn to observe facts instead of mind-reading, express feelings clearly, and request feedback to build real connection.
Turn Social Anxiety Into Effortless Conversations Today
20 years of turning social anxiety into smooth conversations: reframe judgment, stay present, practice curiosity. Your brain’s doom-scrolling can become connection.
Recharge From Burnout at Our Solar Mountain Retreat
Escape burnout at a solar-powered mountain ranch with WiFi, hiking, tennis, fresh food, and optional solitude—where high-performers recharge without the noise.
From Inbox Overload to Mountain Clarity in Mexico
Escape the email grind to Mexico’s mountains. Off-grid ranch with WiFi, trails, and space to reset. Trading burnout for pine trees and clarity—one resident’s story.
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