Discover how a simple practice of seeing others without judgment transformed my daily experience, creating unexpected gratitude in ordinary moments and meaningful connections in everyday interactions.
The story
I never expected gratitude to become such a daily presence in my life. Walking down the street, I notice small human connections—a stranger’s smile, the barista remembering my name, a driver waving me through an intersection.
What changed? I started practicing what I call Practical Empathy [PEP].
When we truly see others without judgment—observing rather than evaluating—something shifts. In my book, I outline a four-step process: observe objectively, identify feelings, recognize values, and make positive requests.
Gratitude flows naturally from this practice. When I understand that the abrupt cashier is feeling overwhelmed because they value efficiency, I’m grateful for their dedication rather than annoyed by their curtness.
This morning, I watched my neighbor struggling with groceries. Instead of thinking “she should have made two trips,” I observed her situation, recognized her determination, and offered help. Her relief was visible, and my day brightened through this simple exchange.
Chapter 9 of “A Practical EmPath: Rewire Your Mind” explores how PEP creates a cycle: empathy builds connections, connections foster gratitude, and gratitude enhances wellbeing. The more I see the underlying values in others’ actions, the more I appreciate the humanity in everyone I meet.
I didn’t create this method to generate gratitude, but it’s become the most beautiful side effect. When we truly see others, we can’t help but be thankful for the web of humanity supporting our lives.
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