Think empathy means feeling what others feel? That’s sympathy – and it backfires. Real empathy is cognitive understanding without drowning in emotions or pushing advice.
The story
Ever wonder why your best intentions in conversations sometimes backfire?
Chapter 3 of my book “A Practical EmPath: Rewire Your Mind” breaks down the core principles that make empathy actually work – and the common mistakes that kill connection.
Here’s the thing: most people think empathy means feeling what others feel. Wrong. That’s sympathy, and it often makes things worse.
Real empathy is cognitive. It’s about understanding someone’s perspective without drowning in their emotions or pushing your own feelings onto them.
The chapter covers the big no-nos that sabotage your conversations:
– Jumping in with unsolicited advice
– Offering reassurance nobody asked for
– Making everything about your similar experience
– Using judgmental language disguised as help
But it’s not just about what NOT to do. You’ll learn how to actually connect – how to listen in a way that makes people feel truly heard.
The difference between someone who “gets it” and someone who doesn’t usually comes down to these fundamentals.
Want to stop accidentally making conversations worse when you’re trying to help? Chapter 3 has the roadmap.
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