People often object when I say others don’t “make us” feel emotions. This belief limits us. Learn how emotional ownership can transform your relationships and inner peace.
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Every time I talk about Practical Empathy Practice [PEP], people get hung up on the same issue: “But Scott, other people DO make me angry!”
This belief keeps so many of us stuck in emotional patterns that hurt our relationships and growth.
Here’s the truth: No one can make you feel anything without your permission. Events and people might trigger emotions, but you hold the keys to your emotional kingdom.
When I built PEP, I built it on this foundation of emotional ownership. It’s powerful to realize that while someone might stimulate a feeling, how you process it remains your choice.
This shift in thinking is one core principle outlined in Chapter 3 of “A Practical EmPath: Rewire Your Mind.”
The chapter also explores how:
– Needs and values are synonymous
– Empathy differs from sympathy
– Everyday conversations transform with these principles
Just as important are the PEP “no-no’s” that derail connection:
– Using judgmental language instead of objective observation
– Giving advice without consent
– Offering empty reassurance
– Making comparisons
– Falling into black-and-white thinking
These principles have created clarity and healthier relationships in my life. They’re practical tools, not just theories.
If you’re tired of feeling emotionally hijacked by others, Chapter 3 provides the roadmap to reclaim your power while deepening connections.
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