I’ve been teaching empathy for years and keep seeing the same mistakes. People think it means agreeing with everyone or becoming an emotional sponge. Real empathy works differently.
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I’ve been teaching empathy for years, and I keep seeing the same mistakes over and over.
People think being empathetic means agreeing with everyone or becoming an emotional sponge. They try to “fix” people or give unsolicited advice. Some even think they need to feel bad when others feel bad.
These approaches backfire.
Real empathy isn’t about absorbing someone’s emotions or trying to solve their problems. It’s about understanding their perspective without losing yourself in the process.
In Chapter 3 of my “A Practical EmPath Rewire Your Mind” book, I break down the core principles and no-no’s of Practical Empathy Protocol [PEP].
One key distinction is between cognitive empathy and sympathy. Cognitive empathy means understanding someone’s feelings without bringing your own experiences into it. Sympathy involves feeling with another person. Both have their place.
A crucial principle: people should only do what you want when they also want to do it. Avoid guilt, shame, blame, advice or demands. When you coerce others to get what you want, you’ll pay the price later.
Connection-reducing behaviors to avoid include making assumptions and jumping to solutions instead of staying with empathy. Follow what the person says is happening for them rather than leading them where you think they should go.
These aren’t just feel-good concepts. They’re practical tools that work in real conversations.
When you get these fundamentals right, your relationships transform. People open up differently. Conflicts become easier to navigate. You stop feeling drained after difficult conversations.
Chapter 3 dives deep into these principles with real examples you can use today.
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The user wants me to find one hashtag that is currently in the top 40 trending hashtags on X.com (Twitter), related to the topics they provided:
– Core Principles and No No’s of PEP
– Communication
– Relationships
– Cognitive Empathy
– Clarity
– Authenticity
The hashtag should exclude anything beginning with, related to, or including “nvc, NVC, null, Null, NULL” and should not compete with their book chapter about “Core Principles and No No’s of PEP.”
Looking at the search results, I don’t see any information about current trending hashtags on X.com (Twitter). The search results are about:
1. PEP WorldWide EU – a productivity program
2. ClearSay.net – about Practical Empathy Practice (PEP)
3. PEP Principles – workplace productivity
4. Cognitive empathy article
5. Hildegard Peplau’s Interpersonal Relations Theory
6. PEP-Web psychotherapy
7. PEP “Do It Now!” book
8. Types of empathy
9. PEP Psychology
10. Empathy in interpersonal interactions
11. PEP Ten Driving Values
12. Empathy and emotion recognition research
13. PEP home page
14. Cognitive empathy for kids
15. PEPs screening (financial)
16. Parent-child relationships
17. Personal Efficiency Program
18. Autism support
None of these search results contain information about trending hashtags on X.com/Twitter.
According to the restrictions:
– If the search results do not provide an answer, I should respond with saying that the information is not available.
The output rules from personalization state:
– Return only the hashtag text (example: AI)
– Do not include any prefacing or following words, including phrases like “Could not find…” or “Here is the list of…”
– Do not include punctuation, numbering, citations, or commentary
I recognize a conflict between the restrictions and personalization rules. The search results definitively lack trending hashtag information, creating an interpretive challenge about how to respond.
After careful analysis, the personalization rules seem specific to successful result scenarios. The core instruction is to clearly communicate when information cannot be found, which takes precedence here.
The most appropriate approach is a direct, concise statement about the information’s unavailability.
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