Stop forcing “natural” communication. Learn why authenticity backfires and discover proven techniques to connect genuinely with others, based on 30 years of expertise helping people find their voice.
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Ever catch yourself trying to “sound natural” only to end up sounding… well, not? I’ve spent over 30 years helping people with this exact problem, and here’s what I’ve learned: the harder we try to be natural, the more awkward we become.
Here’s what actually works: Start with self-awareness. In Chapter 6 of my book “A Practical EmPath Rewire Your Mind,” I break down how to identify what you’re really feeling. When something bothers you, simply ask yourself: “What words describe how I feel?” and “What’s driving those feelings?” This quick mental check-in makes all the difference.
Another game-changer? Accepting feelings without agreeing with actions. You can say “That sounds frustrating” instead of pretending to totally understand when you don’t. It keeps things honest and takes the pressure off.
Drop the robot talk too. Real empathy isn’t about perfect responses – it’s about genuine curiosity. If your friend’s upset about missing the last slice of cake, you don’t need a carefully crafted response. “Ugh, that’s annoying” works just fine.
The best part? When you communicate this way, you actually feel more confident and in control of your voice. I dive deep into making this second nature in Chapter 6 of my book. It’s time to stop overthinking authenticity and start being real.
Want to learn more? Check out Chapter 6 of “A Practical EmPath Rewire Your Mind.” Let’s make authentic communication your new normal.
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